There’s something sacred about having a group of friends who truly get you. For me, that group is Cookye and Mimi. Together, we’ve created a bond that feels more like family than friendship, and our group chat has become a daily lifeline. No matter what life throws our way, we know we have each other to lean on, and that’s an incredible gift.
In November, when my emotions were all over the place and my mental health felt shaky, my friendship with Cookye and Mimi was a constant source of support. They didn’t judge me for venting or breaking down—they simply listened and held space for me. That’s the beauty of having a safe space: you don’t have to perform, explain, or pretend to be okay. You can just be.
Our group chat isn’t just about the heavy stuff, though. It’s also a space for laughter, random memes, and celebrating each other’s wins. We’re each other’s diaries, sounding boards, and cheerleaders. When one of us is struggling, the other two rally around with advice, encouragement, or simply the reminder that it’s okay to feel what you’re feeling.
I’ve come to realize how important it is to nurture friendships like this. Life gets busy, and it’s easy to let relationships slide when you’re caught up in work, family, and everything else. But making time for your friends, even if it’s just through a quick text or call, can make all the difference. These connections remind us that we’re not alone, no matter how overwhelming life gets.
For anyone who’s looking to strengthen their friendships or build a safe space of their own, here are a few things I’ve learned:
- Be intentional. Friendships don’t just happen—they take effort. Check in regularly, even if it’s just a “How’s your day going?” text.
- Create space for honesty. A true safe space is one where you can be vulnerable without fear of judgment.
- Celebrate each other. Whether it’s a big milestone or a small victory, make time to lift each other up.
- Lean in during tough times. When life gets hard, show up for your friends, even if it’s just to listen.
Cookye and Mimi have taught me the value of having people who see you, accept you, and love you exactly as you are. In a world that often feels chaotic, they’re my anchor. If you have a group like this, cherish it. And if you’re still searching for your tribe, don’t give up. The right people will find you when you least expect it, and when they do, it will change everything.